Every Christian strives to become better and holy. After all, this is the sense of a Christian life. Often on this road we meet two extremes: either rejection of the road entirely, or we place before us excessive demands. We call this perfectionism.

Unfortunately, very often our desire to do the very best, not only does it not bring us closer to God, but the opposite, it stands in the way to recognizing God.

A person with manic perfection, find it the hardest to accept their shortcomings. Such a person is always unhappy with their appearance, success or their spiritual life. When a person is not happy with their spiritual life, they always and everywhere try to find mysticism, to feel the proximity of God. When they do not receive such a feeling, they start to think, that they have not earned God’s love and they need more and more to do something and place more demands on themselves. This is a big mistake, but at the same time it is a huge triumph for the devil, who strives to convince a person, that God cannot love them with their sins. If that was the case, then Jesus would not have died for us, in which apostle Paul in his message to the Romans 5, 8: “God demonstrates his own love for us in this, Christ died for us, while we were yet sinners”. God’s love is not possible to buy ­– God gifts it to us.  This is His priceless gift. We just need to learn to accept this gift.

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A perfectionist also makes great demands  of themselves, but even more of other people:  on a wife, husband, people, children.  Unfortunately this situation ends in tragedy: the family falls apart, and such a person remains on their own.

Perfectionists in their souls   –   are   normally “lawyers”, who teach everyone and everywhere, how one has to correctly live and forget about love

A perfectionist also makes great demands of themselves, but even more of other people: on a wife, husband, people, children. Unfortunately, this situation ends in tragedy: the family falls apart, and such a person remains on their own.  Perfectionists in their souls – are normally “lawyers”, who teach everyone and everywhere, how one has to correctly live and forget about love.

Therefore, we as Christians need to answer the call of Jesus “Be perfect, like your heavenly Father is perfect” (Mt. 5, 48). However, in striving towards this, we should remember that He first loved us right to his death, with our imperfections, mistakes and sins. We need to change our lives, but the basis of this change has to be Love to God, not our human egotism.

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